What is separation anxiety?
Separation anxiety occurs when a child experiences distress after being separated from their parent or caregiver. It usually begins between 6-9 months and can continue — on and off — throughout the preschool years.
This can be seen in childcare settings as crying when parents drop off, clinging on to parents, or refusing participation.
What Happens?
When separated, especially in a new place, their fear is real: em data-end=”792″ data-start=”768″>Will they come back?”/em> or em data-end=”820″ datastart=”796″,>Will I be okay here?/em> Children are afraid when separated from their primary caregivers, especially if they’re in a foreign place.
This reaction indicates that a child has formed strong attachments, which is an important part of emotional growth.
How long does it last?
Each child is unique. Separation anxiety can pass quickly for some children. Some people may experience separation anxiety for weeks or even months. This is especially true if the person is naturally shy or anxious or has to adjust to other changes.
What’s the good news? It gets better with patience and consistency.
Tips for Parents and Caregivers
1. Create a Consistent Goodbye ritual
- Routine and predictability are built by a special hug, a wave at the window, or a short goodbye phrase.
- Do not sneak away – this will break trust.
2. Keep goodbyes short and confident
- It can be harder to say goodbye if you are emotional and take a long time. Be positive, calm and quick.
3. Comfort & Distraction
- Toys, songs or favourite activities can be used to redirect the attention of caregivers.
- Remain calm and reassuring – children can sense your emotions.
4. Later, Talk About It
- “Even though we are apart, I love you.”
- “Llama Llama Misses Mama” by Anna Dewdney
- Audrey Penn, “The Kissing Hand HTML0”
- “Owl Babies by Martin Waddell
- “Bye Bye Time” Elizabeth Verdick
Conclusion: The current situation is difficult, but it’s growth
Separation anxiety can be a sign that a healthy attachment is present and not something to worry about. Children can learn to say goodbye with love and support. Reunions are also sweet.
